It’s funny how things in life align sometimes. You'll often find two separate and seemingly unrelated things can wind up being cut from the same cloth. For instance, my blog's name and an incident with a co-worker this past week. Considering the context of each of these things, I never saw how one would relate to the other. Now, I'm a little blown away by how a teenage boy's comment foreshadowed my need to add "Philly" to mommymouth.com.
Last week, one of the young men who washes dishes where I work was overheard saying Megan Fox was hot but had “lost her value” after she had kids. I can hear every mom in unison, "WTF did you just say?!" And, gurrrl, I hear you. Now, I think we all know the little turd at work didn't really mean she lost her human value. What he meant was, she wasn’t the same “spank bank” material for him anymore now that she was a mother. Initially, I felt hurt by what he said and wanted to school this kid on how "women are more than just a vagina" while also pointing out that he was "just a dick" for saying something so ignorant. Then I realized I didn't really give a shit if I was something a teenage boy fantasized about, and Megan Fox would undoubtedly go unfazed by losing her spot in his browser history. So, what was really bothering me?
I started remembering how I felt less sexy right after I gave birth to my oldest son and how I had wondered if I was less desirable now that I was a mom. This teenager's comment had obviously brought back the memory of how that felt. Fortunately, I have since moved past such a ridiculous idea. With a little help from my husband (who gets excited at the site of me removing my socks) and by doing a lot of growing up and learning that sexy is a lot more than superficial bullshit.
After I talked myself off the ledge, my mom-brain switched on. I had let my insecurities distract from the fact that this comment was made by a kid, acting like a kid. His whole life is wrapped up in superficial bullshit. He's not talking with his buddies considering the emotional response he'll illicit from his pigheadedness. He's just trying to reassure everyone that he's NOT into "mom porn." Now, being a kid doesn't excuse his bad manners and he was "scolded" by a fellow co-worker, but he's still got a lot of growing up to do. And, that growing up could lead to a real affection for mom porn, which is quite popular apparently? Hence, my need for a blog name-change. Leave it to me to put together two seemingly innocent words and have them lead people to something totally unrelated to my blog. Hey, live and learn, right?